Edie

Biggest mistake of my life waiting for mother of the bride to get her dress. I wanted a plain simple two piece dress that I could wear forever. Au contraire - (you can see I am still bitter about the whole darn thing) - dusty rose - redheads do not wear dusty rose - Mine was a shorter dress (below knees), her mother's was a gown. Where does it say that a Mother of the Groom has to show up shut up and wear beige. I ended up getting my dress at a second hand shop (her recommendation), because she picked it out (and "if you lose a few pounds, you should be able to fit into it"). ($50.00 back in 1994 - I put it in a shoe box after the wedding - ended up in a little ceremony by myself burning the dress on the back sidewalk). I rue the day I let her get away with it. That was back in 1994 - the marriage never lasted (I wonder why?). I'll interject here a little bit - they (family of the bride) thought we would plan a fancy dinner for the grooms dinner. Ha ha! We had a barbeque catered by one of the best barbeque "cookers" in St. Paul, I made the coleslaw myself, I made the potato salad myself. I bought everything barbeque - it was held in the atrium of the church. Everyone had a ball! Nice and noisy, chatter all over the place, they were able to go back for sec onds and everything. Did all the desserts myself. That was the huge success and I think the bride's side of the family's nose was out of joint. Our son is happily married now for almost 13 years. Don't do what I did. You dress in what you want to wear - color coordinated - that's fine - but you wear what you want to wear and what you are most comfortable in. Best of luck to you and just remember, if it wasn't for you and your husband bringing you son into the world, she wouldn't have your son, which makes you just as important as her mother - Don't ever forget that! The old lady speaketh! Edie