Oh my gosh Connie . . . I cannot believe your mother-in-law would say that to you, who loved and took care of her son. My thought is that she has problems and she is/was unhappy. I don't see that it has to do with YOU, personally. You sound like a very caring, wonderful person, and I like you! Distance yourself from her - good idea - life is too short for people who don't appreciate us. I have many hurts (family), too, always feel like I am the least important, nothing I do seems to interest anyone . . . guess we all have our hang-ups. Surround yourself with loving caring people and friends! We love you!