I made one of my brothers a quilt.
When I presented it to him, he was properly amazed and responded with a lot of praise and appreciation.
He said: It is an heirloom! (it wasn't)
I said: it is for you to use, it isn't an heirloom. It is a nice quilt, but hardly worthy of that delineation
He said: You gave the quilt to me. It is mine, now, and I declare it an HEIRLOOM. I will use it accordingly!
LOL - - I am a free woman, and by golly! I can appreciate that when I give a quilt to someone, it belongs to them to do with as they wish - - sort of the way God provided the world for us, for our use.
My job is to provide what I am able to provide to my family and others - - it isn't my job to care what they do with it.
I have my preferences, but we have to learn that when we give something away (we do it because we want to), it belongs to whoever receives it ...
I know it is hard not to take things personally, but in these cases, there is no percentage in doing so <wave>