Kelly, They went through Children & Youth Agency. The first two were 4 and 5 years old. The second two were 2 1/2 and 4, and the fifth was a newborn that they brought home from the hospital. Your right - it makes no difference who gives birth. My son-in-law is Native American and 4 out the 5 children have blond hair and blue eyes, but he is still Daddy. The oldest boy has dark hair and dark eyes. Many people say the girls look like my daughter, who also has lighter hair and blue eyes. I couldn't love my grandchildren more, even if my daughter had given birth to them. You are in my thoughts and I wish you good fortune with your adoption when you find 'your' baby. :-) :-)