Minda

Kelly, They went through Children & Youth Agency. The first two were 4 and 5 years old. The second two were 2 1/2 and 4, and the fifth was a newborn that they brought home from the hospital. Your right - it makes no difference who gives birth. My son-in-law is Native American and 4 out the 5 children have blond hair and blue eyes, but he is still Daddy. The oldest boy has dark hair and dark eyes. Many people say the girls look like my daughter, who also has lighter hair and blue eyes. I couldn't love my grandchildren more, even if my daughter had given birth to them. You are in my thoughts and I wish you good fortune with your adoption when you find 'your' baby. :-) :-)

KellyPA

We were foster parents for a year, but when our foster daughter left, we were so crushed that we just couldn't continue. We were hoping to adopt through Child and Youth, but now we are planning to do a private adoption. That is wonderful that you are so great about adoption! I'm very worried about my in-laws reaction....they were upset when we were foster parents, so I can only imagine what they will think of adoption. I read a great book that I'm going to buy them and I'm hoping they will read it. This is very important to us and we want our children to be happy, healthy, and loved!

Hugs!

Minda

The only stipulations that my daughter and her husband made to Children and Youth were that the children be no older than 4-5 years old, and that they only wanted children placed with them that were most likely to become adoptable. The oldest two were already adoptable when they came to live with my daughter. I hope your in-laws will be accepting of your decision. Hopefully, the book will help. I wish everything positive for you and your family.

KellyPA

We told Child and Youth that we wanted to adopt and that we wanted a child 6 months or younger....they gave us a child with plenty of family involved and she was 2! I know we could have said no, but how do you say no to a child who needs you! We love her so much! We miss her every single day. Her pictures are all over our house. When I stood there crying the social worker said "it was just a bad match, things will be better next time". She left us on a Friday, I went home and didn't get out of bed until Monday. I knew we couldn't do that again (even thought C & Y asked us to continue!). My younger DD hurt the most. She was so excited to be a big sister!!!!! We couldn't put her through that again either. We need to know that it's forever! Our hearts are open and ready, we just don't want to hurt like that again. We pray every day that there is a baby out there for us to love!!! We weren't planning on telling the girls until we were further along, but we couldn't keep it from them. Everyone is so excited!!!! I told my younger DD yesterday that she needed to get her room cleaned and organized for the homestudy....she ran right up and started cleaning!!!!! Normally there are tears involved when it is cleaning time, so her running right up tells us something! And our older dd has been walking around for about a week with a baby name book and a notebook writing down names and getting our votes on what we like. They are both just so excited!!! We couldn't ask for a better time to welcome a new life into our home. We are hoping this won't be our last adoption either. Right now we want a new born, but after this we are open to any age, so long as the "birth" order is maintained.

Boy can I ramble!

Hope you have a great night!!!!

Minda

I understand completely, Kelly. I'm so sorry you lost her. If we had lost any of our kids, it would have been devastating. We were very, very lucky. If my DD and her husband had a bad experience, I'm sure they would have gone through private adoption also. Please keep us up to date on how things are going. :D :D

Minda

Tigerbaby1981

Welcome from Ontario Canada! Good luck with the adoption! I would love to foster one day but right now we dont have a big enough place.

babeegirl

hello kelly!