My sister and I had total care of our Mom before she passed. (7 brothers and sils who wouldn't do a thing). We were so mentally and emotionally exhausted from caring for her and nasty family issues that it has taken us a full 2 years to get our lives back on an even keel. Would we do it again? Absolutely! I promised my Dad and her that she would never go to a nursing home and thank God, we were able to keep that promise. We have the comfort of knowing that we did everything we possibly could for her. Our so called brothers are living with their guilt.