I worked for 25 years, was a good saver and am a thrifty person. My husband doesn't even know how much I spend on quilting or anything else for that matter. I eat out with my girlfriends at least once a week; he's supportive and always asks what's new with The Girls. He plays golf a couple of times a week with 3 other guys he's been playing with for over 20 years. I have no idea how much he spends on golf. Everyone's happy. The only thing that makes me jealous is to see how many husbands on this board do the cooking...ah, that would be perfection.