I work in a prison, just ask what no properly disciplining your children causes, people don't understand discipline is not beating your kids half to death, its teaching them how to respond to a situation, consequences for their actions, be it good or not, and how you expect for them to behave. I too had a horrable mother, fortunitly I was taken into a loving Foster Family, My "Mom & Dad" are the parents God allowed me choose to be my parents, almost 20 years later and I still call them "Mom & Dad"