Just don't argue, unfortunately she is at that age where girls are trying to prove who they are and the problem is they have no idea. My kids didn't argue with me I just got the dirty looks. My response if they get sassy is I am the adult and you will do what I say. If they decide they want to try to argue I just walk away and tell them we will talk about when you calm down. Eventually your DD will stop when she doesn't get a rise out of you anymore. Do the old talk to the hand because the face isn't listening thing. Hope it gets better for you.