My mom was like that. my son is now 20, and i never nagged him to pick up stuff, ifelt it was his room and his mess. we recently bought a condo 2 bedroom and now i have room for everything. My son is very neat, personally, haircuts ever 2-3 weekds, 2 showers a day, like myself, and i figure, one day they'll outgrown it. I never was one for cleanig, always played outside with him and his friends, making bike ramps and such, I figure, why raise my blood pressure. if you can close a door, let them live that way.