Originally Posted by hikingquilter
With teenagers (and I have had 7)just close the door to their room. It's their space. I had rules about no clothes in the bathroom and no food in the bedroom. Everybody did their own laundry by the time they were 12. And yes, if something is found where it shouldn't be, make it disappear! Believe me, they learn. Pick your battles and save your sanity.
When the girls were younger I liked that idea but as my dh pointed out, it's our house and we made the payments as well as paid for the stuff they aren't taking care of. He felt they needed to be held responsible for taking care of the things they had or they'd wouldn't be responsible as adults. I have to admit he was right; again.