In one way it's real simple, and in another way it's real complicated.
We, as mostly being women (not all, I know) quilters, tend to be nurturers and caregivers. And in a word, enablers.
We somehow seem to accept the responsibilities other people throw upon us, whether WE want it or not.
So I'm saying, I know you do not want to hurt your friend, and you value her, but she has visited this chore onto you, and you let her do it.
And if she gets what she wants this time, it will happen again.
I find it interesting that we can tell each other whom we have never and likely will never meet our true thoughts and feelings on this board, like true sisters and brothers, but we cannot Just Say No to a "friend."
We can only be taken advantage of if we let it happen.
On the other hand, if your friend thought you would drool at the mouth to do this for her, maybe she meant no harm. But if she is never told different, she will continue to think you love doing this.
Or maybe she knows you don't really like it, but you will do it anyway.
Do it if it makes you happy. Don't do it if it makes you puke.
Now HE is a whole nother story.
We gotta quit lying down.
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Now to answer your question, I would have said "I really don't want to do this, Why did you buy the kit if you don't want to make it, and I will be happy to show you how so you can do it."
And I have said this.
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