was rather moved to read these; my Mother died when I was 3 1/2, THEN CHILDREN WERE NOT TOLD ,so at 6/7 realised that it was true reading between the lines, there are SO many questions I have as my maternal G/parents were so upset at the mention of her name that I grew to keep quiet.
DON'T keep the kids in the dark and keep the subject ,however sad, in the open.