Originally Posted by Mamagus
I have a 25 year old daughter ...
In my opinion: She asks this time and you give her a no? The next time she won't ask. She'll find a time and a place to rebel without you ever knowing anything about it.
It is all well and good to be the Mom who takes the high moral ground, but unless you plan to escort her everywhere she goes for the next 4 years, she will in all probability have sex with a boy before then. You can be pro-active and provide her with birth control or her own supply of condoms, but if she wants to, she is gonna do it with or without a sleepover party. It takes a few minutes!!
Letting your child make decisions on their own about their life's path is not being amoral and uncaring. Not if you've already been the voice in her head guiding her decisions thus far. If you've raised her right she'll be fine.
I am sorry you feel this way. That is what I did with my daughter. I how have 2 grandsons, one of which I am raising because she cant and was only 14 at the time she had him. She has no roof over her head, no job, dropped out of high school the last semester, and no hope to make it better. She ran from me into the streets 7 times, has an STD and still doesn't understand. Talk to your daughter? They don't listen, they don't care, and you will be dealing with the consequences for the rest of you life.
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ps she is only 19 years old now