Originally Posted by Quiltforme
My daughter is almost 17 and is going to her first homecoming dance on Saturday. All well here me very excited, dress check, shoes check, makeup check. Then tonight she comes home and ask if she can spend the night at her friends house. I am ok with this but that little gut feeling something more was comming. Then she said well here is the catch I pop up and said what no parents she says no "The Boys" will also be staying over. INSTANT brakes HECK NO my daughter is upset. Ok I need to know am I over reacting?? I was a single mother for a few years I was 21 but still. I know that the parents will be there but I do not know the parents. I honestly do not know what to say. I told her I need to calm down and then talk with her tomorrow. You all have really helped me with my quilting and sorry to bug you but I know that with so many mom's out there with older kids you have already been through this. I live in an area were all the kids 12 and younger. So I really do not have anyone else to talk too. Her best friend's mom and I are good friends but I cannot believe she would let her daughter sleep over with her boyfriend. Please tell me if I am overreacting or being a mom who loves her kid. I value all opinions on this one.
I think you're doing the right thing, but have you considered a plan "B"? When this came up with my younger daughter, I contacted some of the parents who were not happy either, and we planned a night at a motel for all of us. Kids and all. Made sure they had a pool and jacuzzi, and that the motel understood how they were helping us parents, and they even sent the kids complementary movie passes for the next night.The kids had no curfew, and the parents, stayed up to ride herd. Parents and kids stayed in same room w/ two beds, so no issues! We told the kids it was a last family mini vacation. Just happened to fall on the same night as the 'other' party. We all had a blast. We challenged the kids to show us how mature they could be, and they challenged us to see how immature we could be. NO Skinny dipping!