Originally Posted by moonwolf23
Originally Posted by quiltluvr
Think of examples of parents who say yes, whether you know them or not. Then look at the results and ask yourself, is that what you want for your child. (Totally different realm, but I think of Miley Cyrus and family.)
Kids do have a mind of their own and it's even harder when hormones are raging out of control but when a parent "caves" in to pressure or uncertainty about a decision, it's like blood in the water to a shark.
Isn't it ironic that when our kids are small we drill it in their heads to NEVER talk to a stranger, give them their name, get in their car or walk off with them. Give them another dozen years plus and we allow them to go to people's houses we know nothing about.
Yeah, I was a "bad" Mom who had no trouble saying no. I'm sure I'll be even a worse grandma when that time comes.
What exactly is wrong with Miley Cyrus? She's a teen experimenting and frankly doing a responsible job of it, since she's in the Hollywood light. She isn't doing a Britney Spears or Paris Hilton type of thing.
Time will tell how she will turn out. All you and I see is what is presented in the media. The influence of fame can be costly and long lasting. I am fully aware there is a wide spectrum here as to what may be considered acceptable and every one is totally entitled to their perspective. The experiences in my life as a teen and later as an adult parent of teens differs from other posters here. While we all may approach how to handle, how to decide, I feel it safe to say that at the end of the day we all want our children safe and want to help them make the most beneficial decisions not only now but as they grow and mature, not add impossible restrictions or unregulated freedoms.