Mom's with daughters I need your advice again....You will love this one
10-24-2010, 07:07 PM
#171
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i'm in my early 40s, live in NYC and i'd have to pass on this one too.
i question the parents that would allow a coed sleep over to begin with - makes me think the next thing these parents will allow is drinking in the home because its better than drinking and driving.
i question the parents that would allow a coed sleep over to begin with - makes me think the next thing these parents will allow is drinking in the home because its better than drinking and driving.
10-24-2010, 07:43 PM
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Originally Posted by fabric_fancy
i'm in my early 40s, live in NYC and i'd have to pass on this one too.
i question the parents that would allow a coed sleep over to begin with - makes me think the next thing these parents will allow is drinking in the home because its better than drinking and driving.
i question the parents that would allow a coed sleep over to begin with - makes me think the next thing these parents will allow is drinking in the home because its better than drinking and driving.
10-24-2010, 08:29 PM
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I just want to know if she had a good time at the prom. Afterall, that is a huge part of being a teenage girl(note I did not say "woman") and her decision sounds like she is a sweet mature daughter a Mom can be proud of.
10-24-2010, 08:53 PM
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I don't think you're over reacting... but talk to her... ask her what her"standards" are she will of legal age in a year or less... this is when she needs to decide "what she stands for" not what the parents say is right/wrong... It's hard... been there/done that... both girls upstanding and have high standards
10-25-2010, 01:39 PM
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have to agree with you on this I think it comes down to trust
Originally Posted by Mamagus
I have a 25 year old daughter ...
In my opinion: She asks this time and you give her a no? The next time she won't ask. She'll find a time and a place to rebel without you ever knowing anything about it.
It is all well and good to be the Mom who takes the high moral ground, but unless you plan to escort her everywhere she goes for the next 4 years, she will in all probability have sex with a boy before then. You can be pro-active and provide her with birth control or her own supply of condoms, but if she wants to, she is gonna do it with or without a sleepover party. It takes a few minutes!!
By all means call the parents and check out where the boys are sleeping... but unless you're going to supervise her, you have to give her "The Talk" and hope for the best.
Letting your child make decisions on their own about their life's path is not being amoral and uncaring. Not if you've already been the voice in her head guiding her decisions thus far. If you've raised her right she'll be fine.
In my opinion: She asks this time and you give her a no? The next time she won't ask. She'll find a time and a place to rebel without you ever knowing anything about it.
It is all well and good to be the Mom who takes the high moral ground, but unless you plan to escort her everywhere she goes for the next 4 years, she will in all probability have sex with a boy before then. You can be pro-active and provide her with birth control or her own supply of condoms, but if she wants to, she is gonna do it with or without a sleepover party. It takes a few minutes!!
By all means call the parents and check out where the boys are sleeping... but unless you're going to supervise her, you have to give her "The Talk" and hope for the best.
Letting your child make decisions on their own about their life's path is not being amoral and uncaring. Not if you've already been the voice in her head guiding her decisions thus far. If you've raised her right she'll be fine.
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