not a snowball's chance in hell i would let my dd spend the night with her boyfriend @ 17...
my mother let us do pretty much whatever we wanted..not that she didn't care, but just didn't think deviously like we girls did... did i mention that i had the first baby when i was 18...
part of raising goo kids is letting them suffer the consequences of their mistakes... but when it can be a hugely life altering mistake, like a pregnancy or fatal std, you have to step in and be the parent...
i told all 5 kids, i'm not interested in being your "best friend" i am your mother... i also told them that when they were 30 or so, then we can be friends.