Jade, listen to that inner voice. Your gut reaction tells you a lot more than you're listening to. A good answer to "EVERYBODY is doing it!" is "I've never met Everybody's mother yet, and I'm sure she's a lovely lady, but the answer is still NO!" I'm sorry if I sound old-fashioned (I confess, I am), but girls and boys do not need to be spending the night together. You've got to take a stand somewhere, or anything you say from now on will be up for argument. Don't be afraid to make this decision. That is your right and responsibility as a parent. If God had thought kids didn't need parents, He'd have made them spring forth full grown, like Athena, from Zeus' head. And remember, in spite of what she'll tell you, the more things change, the more they stay the same. <G> End of sermon.