Don't go in there alone. Call a friend and make it a duty to get it cleaned up. Keep only the things that make you happy and either got someone else to finish those projects that you want to see done but hurts too much to do it, or give them away. Change things around so it doesn't look like it did before. Have the room make you happy filled with happy memories. August is recent and it still hurts, but the quicker you get on with it the better you will feel. Do you have a quilting buddy? Maybe one of your kids can help. When you are lone you tend to think. With company is easier to deal with it.