stevendebbie25

Sorry to hear of her granchild, we lost our son, I know what it's like, he was 23. We lost 5 babies, and 4 where c-section emergency deliveries to save them. Then I had cervical cancer also, and they said enough if I want to raise my children, hysterectomy time. We have 5 beautiful wonderful children. One born 2 wks late @ 9 lbs is now just a little 5' mom of 4 herself. One born 7 wks early I hemorraged, but he was saved, we had him 23 yrs and I was with him 9 mo in hospital before he left us.
Next was born 6 wks early, has a bad heart valve, but she's Barbie doll beautiful, smart as a whip, married and hoping for her first child. Then I had cervical cancer, they said I couldn't have more children, and where shocked when the 4th came at full term but 5 lbs, she's still only 4'11" and under 100 lbs still, has severe asthma (nearly lost her giving birth to her son), has "I'm older than I look" on her business card, sells real estate, married with a son 2 yrs. Then our baby really shocked docs, said I'd never see this happen again, that time was a miracle. My cervix was removed and scared shut, they thought, and then I had another and went full term. She'll be 22 next wk, has a 3 yr daughter & melanoma cancer. We had lost a baby before our first, and 4 after her before the son was born.
I believe each child, trials and all, are a great blessing. I believe each trial only makes us stronger. I pray the best for your granddaughter and her baby. I've had 41 surgeries, and hope to see my grandchildren have children like my mom has...that would be my greatest desire, growing old beside my husband. At least I have a very wonderful man by my side through all the grief I've put us through (unintentionally, still). He's protective, supportive, encouraging, loving, works too hard, and gives generously. Now, if we could just get our youngest two daughters to straighten out their lives and lesson a burdon on their dad. He's been working 150 hrs/wk, and 24hr robs you don't come home between, continuous until it's finished, sleep in a pick up or shack. Only 2 days a month off. And they seem to make the worst choices, and if not for those precious granchildren..well, he feels he has to help. One is moving back home again now, which is easier for us to help her than paying her bills ontop of ours. Another is getting divorced and moving home this spring for a few months too. I look forward to moving ahead in our lives, and hope we can see them move forward and successful finally in theirs. We're paying for a house in one town, DH works 4 hrs away so we have an apt. in that town, and would love to build our future after raising our children...guess parenting doesn't end.
One piece of wisdom...take care of yourself to be there for others. You need your own sanity if quilting relaxes, make time. You need to keep your mind sharp, quilting works that, make time. Your gifts made keep your emotional 'heart' strong, make time. Even with social work or family, it's uplifting to learn & make new friends, take classes or active in a quilt guild, make time.