Is it possible that you are expecting too much from yourself too soon? You had a major life change pretty recently and you need to recover. You will do that at your own pace and in your own way. If you don't want to quilt, then you must need a break. It will come back but give it time.
I am so sorry for your loss. You must have a huge hole in your life without your DH and you need to be gentle with yourself right now.
Irish