Chris, you need to just move here to Missouri! We have 2 quilt shops owned and operated by men. One of those shops has a monthly meeting called THE GENTLEMENS QUILT CLUB and you have to be male to join it! My husband loves it! Believe it or not, he says there are about 25 in the club. A bunch of my friends and I get together for sit n sews at least once a month. My husband goes right along with me and has a great time.
If ever you do plan a trip to Missouri, please let me know, you are more than welcome to come here and hubby and I will be glad to help you.
I know what you mean by needing to be a visual learner. I am the same way. Feel free to PM me and I'll try to help all I can.