I am guilty !! when I was 20 years old, we had a quilt that was made for my husband by his grandmother, and a down comforter also that came from her. We did put the quilt on the twin bed, but the comforter was a very ugly green so we had it put back in a closet. Well, winter came, and it was to be very cold, and husband took the quilt and comforter and tossed them on the hood of the car, hoping that would let the car start in the morning. Then it was just left laying on the garage floor for the rest of the winter. I should have been smarter and stopped him from doing that, but honestly, at the time, I figured it was something his gramndma made for him, he could do what he wanted with it. Had it been from MY grandma, I would not have allowed that to be done. Years later I realized what went into a quilt, and the down comforter could have been recovered, but at 20, it didn't really mean much to me or hubby. NOW it would mean the world to have that quilt!! Yes, you give something, and it is theirs to do as they want, but, if your GD did this, and the parents were there and didn't stop it, then I would have to say something to her. She is family!! I said something to my daughter when she used the very first one I made, for her dog to sleep on. It was then washed and put on a quilt rack. She didn't realize either at 20, but she does now! Personally, I would never make a quilt for someone not of my family, maybe a wallhanging size, but I sure wouldn't go overboard. I made my MIL a very pretty pink, blue, white quilt to use in her guest room with white wicker furniture. She had admired others I made using those colors and professed to love to have something like that. was on the bed about two months and then her daughter gave her a store bought patchwork ( 6 inch scrappy), and it was used instead. She "said" she didn't want to ruin mine, and didn't want to hurt her "daughters" feeling! Learned my lesson with that!!