Gifts should only be given out of the goodness of our hearts, because we want to do something nice for someone else. When we have expectations about the use or appreciation of those gifts, we're gifting for ourselves, not for others. If you want to only gift things to people who will use and appreciate them the way you want them to, I am sure there are many nice people on this board who will be glad to give you their addresses. Otherwise, take joy just in the giving, and forget the rest!