Its understandable you'd be hestiant about giving a quilt. A lot of people have said the "once you gift it, they can do whatever with it" credo, but honestly I think its bull. I think whenever a quilter sees a quilt that they've made mistreated (not "loved to death, but mistrated) they feel like they died a little on the inside because they put their whole heart, soul, creativity, and the idea that the recipient would adore it into making that quilt.
But don't let one bad experiance involving a quilt gift (with a teenager I might add) let it stop you from creating another quilt to give as a gift. Not everyone you give a quilt to is going to use it as a dog mattress or leave it on the floor to be stepped on. There are actually non-quilters in this world who appreaciate the amount of work that goes into a quilt.