Being a quilter, I understand the amount of work & $$ that goes into a quilt.
But to give a gift with conditions (if you don't want it, give it back)or to specify how much it costs, doesn't seem to be in the spirit of truly giving. Seem more like a negotiation.
Kids (teens) do foolish, selfish things, but mostly due to ignorance and the self-centeredness that comes with youth.