Churning out quilts en masse and giving them away willy nilly like will help break you of your expectations. That's one way.
You can't guarantee how others will behave so it's really your expectations which have to change. That way, it's a nice surprise when someone respects your work.
You could make blankets for shelters, sick children, wounded warriors, etc. Those are groups of people who, for the most part, appreciate the gift.
I would be leery of making a blanket for someone I like while fearing their reaction. I wouldn't want to alter our future relationship due to my possible disappoint with that person (and in a situation I created to boot).
It's a lovely quilt you posted. I wouldn't be surprised if she someday regretted not keeping it as an heirloom.