I would have picked the quilt up and taken it home and washed it. I would also have told the owner that when she thought she was old enough to take care of such a precious gift she could have it back. The older I get the more impatient I get with people that have a lack of respect for most things. Your quilt should have been honored not disrespected. I am ver picky about who I give quilts to and I already regret some I gave away when I was a fairly new quilter. The quilt I made for my first grandchild is used for many things, even a dog bed thanks to my daughter-in-law. There will not be another quilt of mine in their home !!!