Originally Posted by noveltyjunkie
Originally Posted by ptquilts
Ladies, please, if you are a DIL, PLEASE make an effort to include your DH's family in your plans. .
I don't know about this one, although I understand your motivation.
I used to do this, but then I realised the my behaviour was making my DH feel like I was trying to make his family behave more like mine. (Our families are about as different as two families could be.) I thought he might be right. So I stopped, while letting him know that I am very open to being with them.
But they are his family and it is up to him, not me, to make sure that our kids are part of their lives.
I'm sort of on the other side, too. My mom passed earlier this year. She lived two states away, but we talked all the time and she was close to my kids. My in-laws live here in town, and we saw them a lot, too. But recently they retired and up and moved away. Now my kids have no grandparents around, and we have no back-up.
I respect my in-laws' right to live their lives to the fullest, but truly, it hurts that they left us and I know my mother would never have done that, would have done anything to be closer...