We make quilts because we have to - the need comes from deep inside and quilting makes us feel good. I am sorry that your quilt was mistreated and I do understand your sadness. Keep making quilts and when the time is right to gift them, you will know. Just enjoy the process.
I have three quilts that I simply cannot part with for one reason or another. Many others I have gifted to others or donated to charity. I hope that all "my quilts" are doing well, but in many cases I honestly do not know what happened to them. They are "hugs" that I have given away.