I pin a card tied with a bow onto the quilt I'm gifting with all the instructions on its care. I include all the quilt information from the label and add info as to the pattern, block, quilting, etc., etc., as well as why I chose the colors and what was my inspiration. The beginning of the care instructions begin with.."Every quilt is a work of art to be hugged, admired and cuddled up in..." Then I give the care details such as never dry clean, best in coin operated front loading washer; mild soap, delicate cycle, cold water and how to dry it, etc., adding storing and refolding advice, etc. I believe this indicates to the recipient that this is one fine piece of art and he/she should be glad to have it after all my work and love that goes into it. I have never had a problem with unapreciative recipients...they have all been thrilled to have one. Maybe you would feel less ravaged by doing something similar.