I know how that must have hurt. I put a lot of work and love into a quilt for a little neighbor girl. A year later I saw the quilt in the back seating area of their pick up just wadded up and on the floor.
The most hurtful thing was this summer at my wedding rehersal supper when I overheard my grown[38 yo] daughter say to family and friends "I just hate it when Mom makes me things". Well let me you....I said to my sister and sister in law, away from Amy's hearing, I will never make anything for her again, it takes too much time, money and effort to waste it on someone who doesn't appreciate handmade gifts.
If my work looked shabby, I might understand. My Mom made things for me when I was a child and I thought they were wonderful. I feel better now....