Make each stitch a prayer for your DD a DGDs for protection against those harsh words. Now here's the hard part. Also add prayers for SIL that God might change his heart.
Finally, be prepared for him to be very unapreciative and critical of your gift. However, you are making it for your DD, not him!
May peace belong to all of you this Christmas and the years to come.
Blessings,
Peggy