Thank you . I needed this point of view. My SIL has a 12/6 birthday. Several years ago I bought him an expensive Alpaca cardigan so he could layer at work as needed. He sat at my dinner table after opening it and mocked about how he would look like "Mr. Rogers". Would that he were more like that man. The occsional foul mouth to my grandsons has made me want to cry in the past. No gifts from me since.