yepper, go visit the shut-in.. You'll both get something out of it! You can take pictures of the quilt.. bet the shut-in will be more than happy to show you the quilt.. and that person will love having you visit and take an interest in her and her new quilt..
I wouldn't mention your not being able to get the name from whoever was having a bad day and would give it.. cripes!
I am sort of surprised at this poor lady.. first, most quilters are more than happy to tell you anything you ask regarding their quilts.. and second, most church people are usually nice and happy to share.. She was really having a bad day!! Perhaps she just needs a sweet prayer said for her.