It is a generation of women thing. Those of us over 50 (and a few younger) were raised that it is our job to keep the house clean, cook nourishing meals (3), take care of every one else in the household, and always wear a smile and look good for DH. We weren't supposed to have time for ourselves. Get over it - this is the 21st century! We now know that we are no good for anything if we aren't good to ourselves.