Old 01-20-2011, 09:14 AM
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selm
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Originally Posted by Butterfli19
Daughter is talking about going / moving to AZ this fall with my GS who will be 10 mos then. She has an old flame there so I am not sure if she's thinking with the smart part of her brain right now, but Oct is still a way off, so there is time to save her. ;) I told her to do what she feels she needs to do, but right now is not time for me to pack up and move. I also told her I may want to check out the Carolinas as they have a coastline and seasons, but not so extreme.

I love my old house as I feel a kinship to it, and we've lived here 13 years this year - the longest I've lived anywhere. We are aging together and my plan was to spruce her up a bit this year - paint the entire inside, new carpets, kitchen and living room set. It's a New Englander with an attached barn, has 19 windows, and it's perfect for the other three seasons.

Maybe I feel overwhelmed because I'm single, by choice actually, and have always lived with someone, either parents, husband (now ex) or kids. I really don't know who I am or what I can do and I'd like to find that out. If she does move and DS goes to VT college, I'll get to know me as me, and maybe my future residence will become clearer.

Since DD was an infant I've wanted to start a business sewing clothes and things for babies and toddlers and that would be my chance. Since GS has been born I have been able to sew some things for him and I feel that I want to pursue this. I'm a domestic at heart and somewhat of a loner, and between sewing, photography, and sitting on the porch with my coffee on a nice spring day, I feel like the richest and happiest person in the world.
Maybe what you should do(as many others do) is stay in the house you love and go to a warmer climate during the winter or some part of it. I was going to suggest anyway that you not tie your future to your DD or anyone else( though I can see you already see that). Their plans could change and they could move again. If you could take a vacation from the cold even for a few weeks maybe that would be enough to break the 'hate the snow/cold' feelings or at least make it more bearable for you.

Good wishes for whatever you eventually decide.
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