Originally Posted by diannemc
His mother read all the time...
I don't sew everyday.. As long as I am in the kitchen cooking ..or cleaning it doesn't matter if I am sitting with him or not...He just doesn't like the sewing??? But like I said if a friend of his or someone at work is having a baby he wants me to make something... Can't figure it out???
I'm going to get all therapy touchy-feely on you, okay? Have you heard of the book "The 5 Love Languages"? Try it. The premise is that each person has a specific love language, something that makes that person
feel loved. This has nothing to do with intellect, just emotions. So, maybe for someone it's Words of Affirmation (they like to hear that they are wonderful, beautiful, strong, etc.) and for someone else it's Quality Time (sitting together watching TV) and for someone else it's Acts of Service (husband mowing the lawn makes wife feel loved). Now, the counter to that is that when someone uses a language that is NOT someone else's love language, it makes the person feel unloved. So, if someone's love language is Quality Time, then providing Acts of Service feels awful. If wife wants Quality Time, but husband spends time fixing the gate, mowing the lawn, wife feels unloved.
Okay, having said that... I know that quilting is a hobby, so it's not specifically a love language. But, maybe if your H's love language is Quality Time, then spending 30 minutes with him watching TV would make him feel loved, and then he would be happy for you to spend time in your quilting cave.
Of course, he should also use your love language for you. So, he should understand that Words of Affirmation about your completed quilt makes you feel loved.
When both parties use each other's love language, every feels loved.