I only found out by accident.........Let me tell you a little about myself first. DH and I are both 44 and we got married right out of high school. Tuesday was our 25th wedding anniversary. We went out to supper and had a nice evening, just the 2 of us, which doesn't happen very often. Our daughter is married with a 22 month old DGD who we see at least 3X a week. Our son is in college and just left from Christmas break last weekend. Today my BIL came into my ofice at work and said" That party at your house tomorrow, well I won't be able to come cuz I will be working. I had no idea what he was talking about. When I went for lunch I asked DH about it. He was so mad... He (with the help of a lot of friends and family members) have been planning a surprise anniversary party, for me mostly, for over a month and my BIL had to spoil it 1 day before the party. I don't like to talk mean about people but I swear he isn't happy unless he is making someone else unhappy. I am sure I will still enjoy the party, they are planning on around 100 people to come, but why do people have to do mean things???