Second marriage, 10 years together, both retired. He says if I shop and cook, he'll do dishes. if he notices a laundry basket is full, he washes and dries it, brings it down for us to fold. Otherwise, I do 2-3 loads a week, he helps fold. We have his/hers/ours bank accounts so what I spend on fabric doesn't bother him at all. He likes old cars, has 6 he drives in rotation to keep them going. I go with him on some of his rides around the neighborhood, but not all. We have the tv going in the evening, some nights to "Pawn Stars" and Swamp hunter shows, but at least half the time to my cooking shows. Neither of us is avidly watching, we are on our computers, or I knit or hand sew. We are together, we comment to each other, it works. I go away to a quilt retreat for 5 days once or twice a year. He is happy as long as I leave a few frozen meals behind. I try to comment on his backyard farm and he asked if he could have my most recent quilt! I think maturity and a willingness to please each other makes for a happy marriage (and a happy quilter)!