I think your curse is that you invite the wrong people into your life. There is a reason you keep doing this and the quilts are just the symptom of the true problem. Focus on why you do that while you are making your current project for yourself. You deserve to be treated the way you treat others - only allow people around you that treat you that well. That will break the curse - in quilts and probably other ways that you give to others.
Good luck - many of us struggle with this in life. We don't demand what we deserve and settle for less. You're not alone.