I'll admit I haven't read the whole thread, but I've found that arguments and issues arise when someone's needs aren't being met.
Darling Husband loves his TV, and wants to watch it all the time. That makes him happy. Loving Wife does NOT want to watch TV all the time; if she did, she would be unhappy.
Loving Wife loves her quilting, and wants to quilt all the time. That makes her happy. Darling Husband does NOT want to quilt all the time; if he did, he would be unhappy.
So what's missing? Darling Husband doesn't really want his wife to sit around and watch TV, but he DOES want to spend time with her doing something he enjoys. There's no reason this can't be something that she enjoys as well. So what is it they can do together that would make them both happy? When they find it and give that time back to each other, then when they aren't doing that he can watch TV and she can quilt without resentment.
As for the husbands who don't like it when their wives fold laundry in common areas, hello, the 50s called and they want Archie Bunker back. Also, the 2010s said to fold your own *&%# towels.