I understand your hurt. My Dad used to say hurtful uncaring things to me, never spent any time with just me but had plenty of time for my five brothers. I offered to take him fishing one time when he said he really wanted to go but couldn't use a boat by himself anymore. Well we had a beautiful pontoon boat just made for fishing and we lived on a lake. I often took it out by myself to fish for the day. When I told him I would take him, he said 'Why would I want to fish with a girl when I have five boys I can fish with." I cried inside but said nothing to him. I later told my DH and he made me understand that I am valuable even if my Dad can't see it. I was in my 40s at the time. So I hope you don't let this hurt you for too long. You are a valuable person no matter what your dad said. And a big hug to both of us. It must still hurt me a little or I wouldn't have brought it up.