Wouldn't it have saved a lot of time and engery if you had just told her right out that you weren't going to give it to her? Not telling her is just going to drag the whole thing out and stress you out that much more. I would have said I am sorry, I had to pay for it, so I guess it would be unethical of me to just give it to you. Unless of course, she is a really good friend and cannot affort to pay, then just go ahead and give it to her. Can you tell you are not the only wishy washy person on this planet? LOL