Originally Posted by LMB
I found it really causes me less stress than trying to sneek my way out of uncomfortable situations... and once it is said the person or persons causing me grief have a clear picture of my feelings. The saying is... wait for it... NO!
I say it politely, but not with an "I am sorry" because I am not.
Amen to that! I've struggled with this same thing myself, and gaining the ability to say NO and mean it has been one of the most freeing things in my life. Now, I really try to just say what I mean. If I was in this situation, I would say, "no, I can't give it to you because it's copyrighted, and that's illeagal."
She might respond as others have responded to me with, "well, no one will know." And I respond with, "but I'll know and I don't do that." You don't have to get her to agree with you or to be happy about your decision.
Sometimes we don't like confrontation because we hate to make someone feel uncomfortable. But they are the ones who are putting us in the awkward situation, so we really don't owe it to them.