Originally Posted by sueisallaboutquilts
Originally Posted by Cyn
Just say you don't have it anymore. I'd try to save the relationship by saying I lost the pattern but will let her know when it shows up. I guess I lie :(
Why lie???? Makes no sense to me.
Makes no sense to me either. If a friend asks you to cheat and won't take no for an answer, is this the caliber and integrity of someone you really want for a friend? If you have to lie, or avoid her, or make up excuses to 'save the relationship' what kind of relationship do you have? I know it is always easier said than done but I used to be a people pleaser and believe me, compromising your standards, morals, character and reputation are NOT worth it, ever. If this person doesn't understand No, then it is her problem, not yours. You are doing the right thing, so don't back down.