This has been hanging over your head since the call. If you had said, NO I can't give the pattern away without permission it would have been over and done with and no more fretting about it. Look at it this way, It's the same as her asking you to give her money you paid for the pattern and the pattern too! She's cheating two people. Never feel bad about saying NO and ladies raise your DDs to say Heck No! to anyone.