I have seen several posts about quilt-gifts not being appreciated. And I have had that happen as well ... via both my parents and a sister. It hurts badly. So now when I think I want to make a quilt for someone I let them know I would like to do this AND why. If they are receptive then I also include them in the process .... color choices, patterns etc This has worked out wonderful for those receiving and for me, giving !! The quilt itself is still a surprise bec the end result is so pretty!