Oh do I understand how you feel , for 10 years now I have had sewing/quilting at my house every Wednesday night admitily with onoy 4 ladies they all expect it set up ready and never stay to clean up .....yes two of them bring supper but I prove the coffee and every thing else they may need they all think my sewing room is their own and if they have forgotten something it is Oh ! can I borrow , I never get it back , then about 4 months ago I changed it to every twoweeks , went down like a lead balloon . So staring from next week we are going to take urns ... lets see how that lasts , hard part is we all get along ok never had a cross word and I do love sewing with them ,but not at my house all the time.